Okay, Grumpy, Sarah from Seattle has solved the easy smilie issue!
Go to User CP at the top of the message board. Click on edit options. Go down to the Message Edit Interface. Change from standard text mode to superduperwysymagggit...the last option. Save.
Now, when you post, the old help box will appear at the top of the standard reply box. It will not show up under quick reply.
Gotta love Sarah from Seattle!